Many men don’t respect when you say NO. They think you meant YES

I am writing this blog because I finally realised and understand my trauma from childhood and teenage years which would affect my love life in my adulthood. A couple of things helped me in this process and I'm going to name them.

Sometimes we forget early memories of our childhood, or we block them out for a good reason. However, if you have issues with something in your adult life, it’s almost always tied to your childhood. Whether you remember it or not.

I have taken time off my life to figure some stuff out. It takes a lot of soul searching and self-reflection which in many cases is uncomfortable. Sometimes you think “oh maybe I'm just exaggerating” but stop yourself right there. Your feelings are 100% valid. Never disregard anything that makes you uncomfortable. Even if you don’t understand why.

Identifying the trauma

I haven’t actually had any physical sexual trauma in my childhood, as far as I remember and that’s why I thought my feelings were not valid. How sad. The conversation changed so much since the early 2000s and I couldn’t be happier.

I'm going to add to this conversation by sharing my experience. I am almost sure that any woman who is a millennial and older has at least one sexual experience which was not consensual. Because rape was always defined as something violent.